I love birthdays. Well, maybe I should be a little more specific. I love when it’s my birthday. I mean, who doesn’t love their birthday? On the one day a year that you probably get the most Facebook messages, phone calls, texts, and words of encouragement from all the people who are dear to you all at once, how could you not be happy?
There are lots of reasons to love your birthday. Getting stuff, eating cake, getting more stuff, eating more cake. But I love my birthday mostly because it reminds me of all that I have to be thankful for.
I’m alive first of all, and that’s something that I did absolutely not work for. So really my Mom should be the one being thanked on June 7 every year! I have people in my life who love me, and I have a God who has called me to himself. I’m a blessed boy.
I was recently talking to a friend of mine about relationships. This friend works with money so a financial analogy was inevitable (and in this case brilliant). Let’s say relationships operate on a transactional basis, with positive, encouraging things counting as “deposits” and negative or discouraging things considered as “withdrawals.” I sometimes live with the deception that as long as I maintain an even balance, my relationships will survive just fine. To put it another way, I believe that as long as I haven’t made too many withdrawals, my relationships shouldn’t suffer. Wrong-o.
The problem with that philosophy is that most relationships aren’t interest-free relationships. The value of the deposits does in fact decrease as time goes by and more must be added to maintain the balance. This is a really important thing to know! Some people have a higher “interest rate” than others, but the truth is we all need those consistent deposits of love, intentionality and encouragement.
It’s a timely reminder, especially when I consider how good it makes me feel to have people “depositing” on special days like today. So thank you to all of you who care and take the time to share it. I hope that I can someday follow your example, and may we all continue to grow up to be relational “big spenders.”